Imagining the perfect pair

God has given the capital base so that we can build our families be families sakinah, namely ditiupkannya compassionate and merciful. Next we nurture and care for themselves who love and affection is not to injure the way in fostering households. One that can make the love of husband and wife to be torn apart is the 'shadow of perfection on couples. " There is a saying 'where there is no deep love, there would be no deep disappointment. " That the consent granted was held before or during early marriage, when love is present to meet the living heart, husband or wife looked at her life partner is so very perfect, spotless & blemish because we lost in the shadow of beautiful is not what we actually see the reality in front of the eye us.

Over time the stain and wrinkle visible visible, flame of love began to fade, each partner was aware of the condition being experienced. Perfection pair remains a focus of desire. Immersed in a beautiful shadow. Lulled into dreams. Whereas at the beginning of our marriage the couple were indeed not perfect, because there is no perfect human being. In pengerti's, the spouse is not the person who can satisfy all of what we want. Thus, the root of the problem is not the decline in the quality of perfection, but love our spouses are no longer passionate as ever. Therefore, expect the perfect partner will only make the love that has existed be torn. When we demand that our spouse to perfect it seems there are many imperfections in front of our eyes.

There is good advice from the Imam Syafii when we expect a perfect partner, 'If we imagine the perfect partner but we are married couples who are not perfect and we expect perfection, then there are only two options. First, do away with just the shadow of perfection and accept our partners as they are or campakkanlah your partner and accept the shadow of perfection as your life partner. "

'And among the signs of His power is that He created for you pairs of your own kind and so you tend to feel serene and maketh him among you a sense of love and affection. Verily in this is truly there are signs for those who think '(Surah Rum: 21).